To socialize or talk informally preferably over a drink. Word forms: 3rd person singular present tense hobnobs, present participle hobnobbing, past tense, past participle hobnobbed.
But honestly. Hobnob is a safe space for women who prefer iced coffee over a perfectly curated wardrobe. It’s is a daycare center for women who are intrigued by trends, but also don’t care. It is an open bar for those who swear on vintage Chanel and whose pension funds hang in their closets.
If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor – Desmond Tutu
If you don’t know what to say or what to do, learn what to say and what to do and then say and do it. If you haven’t before – now is the time to raise your voice. Now is the time to stand with the black community. Now is the time to get educated about the history and present times of oppression of black people.
Remember that it’s not up to black people to educate you about their suffering. Take responsibility and inspect yourself, as well as your surroundings. Have the uncomfortable conversations. Where can you improve? What do you have to do in order to become an ally? Here are some resources to begin to get involved:
BOOKS TO READ
So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo
How To Be An Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi
White Fragility by Robin Diangelo
Heavy: An American Memoir by Kiese Laymon
The Fire Next Time by James Baldwin
I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou
Me and White Supremacy by Layla F Saad
Why I’m no longer Talking to White People about Race by Reni Eddo-Lodge
FILMS AND SERIES TO WATCH
13th by Ava Duvernay
American Son by Kenny Leon
Selma by Ava Duvernay
When They See Us by Ava Duvernay
Queen and Slim by Melina Matsoukas
Dear White People by Justin Simien
BlackkKlansman by Spike Lee
See You Yesterday by Stefon Bristol
All of the films and series should be available at Netflix or Amazon*
Also, to my fellow non-black POC’s, this is just as crucial for us as for white people. Don’t think just because you’re non-white there’s nothing that’s needed from you. There are plenty of racism to deconstruct in our communities as well. Get educated. Discuss. Reflect. Be fully honest with yourself. Use your voice to bring subject into matter with your family and friends. It’s the only way forward.
ACCOUNTS AND PEOPLE TO FOLLOW:
Layla F. Saad
The Black Lives Matter Global Network
The Conscious Kid
Ibram X. Kendi
Check Your Privilege
Lastly, I understand that I can never understand. But I stand with you. BLACK LIVES MATTER